Do you remember when you used to be a little naughty at school at the teacher would tell you off? They’d talk to you in a really condescending way making sure you knew you’d done wrong. Yeah that shouldn’t be something you experience when you’re a full grown adult.
Welcome back to the blog! Today we’ve been for our 20 weeks pregnancy scan but first, who remembers our Pregnancy Announcement Video?
If you skip to about 40 seconds in, you’ll see we recorded about 4-5 seconds of the scan monitor as part of our video. Well, today upon being called in we were ambushed by two sonographers who immediately went at us about filming that clip. So to get the title of this blog out of the way, NO, you’re not allowed to film at a pregnancy baby scan.
However, at the point of that recording we didn’t know that!
The sonographer from our 12 weeks scan caught wind of our video on Facebook and decided to report us to the hospital. They’ve obviously added this to our notes and decided to go after us as soon as we stepped back into a room. Hands up, we apologised and said it was a genuine error on our part, we didn’t know it wasn’t allowed and said it wouldn’t happen again.
That’s when it got interesting!
The two sonographers then decided to continue their endeavour to play headteacher, talking to us like we were naughty little school children and even worse, made it clear they thought we were liars by continuing their ‘telling off’ by repeatedly saying there was a sign and that we ‘obviously have a hidden camera’!
WHAT?! I’ve never hidden my camera ever!
What struck me most was the fact that this was the very first thing that came out of their mouth as soon as we stepped into the room. There wasn’t even a ‘how are you?’ or a question to make sure things were OK with Donetta, THE PREGNANT WOMAN there to check everything was OK with our baby!
It was disgusting behaviour and on top of that, to then continue after we explained it was a misunderstanding, they made it clear that they’d already made their pre-judgements on us and we were liars with hidden cameras.
We requested to speak to someone else and a lovely lady came to save the day and put what was important first, our baby. Luckily she was understanding and adult enough to actually have a conversation with us and I’d like to think she realised we’re not bad people and aren’t out looking for bother.
Everything is fine with our baby and it’s all worked out well in the end. This could have been dealt with so much more professionally and easily. Oh I haven’t even mentioned that we had Corben with us too, a 6 year old having to see his mum in an already anxious moment, as scans can be, get even more flustered when put under attack.
I think the big lesson of today’s experience and one I’ve explained to Corben when he was obviously questioning what was happening, is that you must be nice and respectful to everyone you meet at all times, but if someone speaks to you with zero respect you MUST stick up for yourself and demand to be treated properly.
Oh and don’t record or take photos during a scan, it’s not allowed…